Melissa, over at Suburban Bliss, appeared on The Today Show recently to discuss a growing trend among some mothers called “Cocktail Playdates”. Here’s the skinny: the kid gets his or her juice box, the mother a glass of chardonnay. (MmmmmmMmmmmm, wine.)
I live in Williamsburg, Brooklyn. I see mothers and their children (or
babies toddlers) out all the time with other mothers. They often meet at bars. Sometimes they knit and talk and sip wine. Sometimes they just talk and sip wine. Sometimes they order cheese as well. (Cheese!) It happens. And to be perfectly honest, I like that it happens. I used to watch them and wonder when or if I’d ever be in their situation, a mother and a person at the same time. So, you better believe that when I’m done giving birth to this little bean, I will join them. Will I get drunk? No. Will I be driving? Nope. Will I have a glass of wine with my girlfriends? Absolutely. (Of course, I have to find the girlfriends first. Right now, it’s more like girlfriend. Hi, Missy!)
Well, as it were, other mothers don’t think this is such a wise idea. I didn’t catch the show when it actually aired but I did just watch it online. You can, too. I’m not at all surprised at the outcome. Of course a major media outlet is going to spin such a story. They know how the blog world works, how mothers can be. They know how to get more traffic to their Web site(s). They know how to play the game. What bugs me the most about the situation isn’t the whole “Butter Battle Book” phenomenon, it’s that they used their media outlet to feed a fire that surrounds a group of people who already spend too much time at one another’s throats.
In the end, and perhaps it’s because I’m not quite a mommy yet, it’s hard for me to get worked up over a woman having a glass of wine in front of her kids especially since I live in a city where some people beat their children to death. Perhaps life is different in the suburbs. I don’t know.