Los Angeles

Well, just when you thought our lives couldn’t get any more insane, Toby Joe is offered a transfer to the Los Angeles office for the company he works for. I’m besides myself with freak.

We would have to be there in May. And the project would begin then, too. They would pay for ABSOLUTELY everything this time, so that’s why I didn’t shut down the idea entirely. And the pay is good, too. Plus, we’d only need to be there for about 8 months. They have an apartment picked out (corporate apartment in North Hollywood, which is really close to two wonderful friends) and a company car we can use as well.

But I’m worried about the cats. I don’t think they can take another cross-country move. But I am not sure I can live without them for 8 months either. The company says that they will fly them there and take care of any vet bills should they need check ups. I’m just not sure Schmitty can handle it. I mean, he’s getting older every minute.

This has been brewing here for about a week now, and it’s caused much tummy stress and heavy discussions between the two of us. I love New York and, this time, I wasn’t ready to EVER leave again. I guess LA has much better weather than San Francisco does. And we do have really great friends who live there.

Are we crazy? Will someone please tell me why this kind of thing ALWAYS happens to us? My dreams last night turned to nightmares of flying over mountain roads while in a helicopter. We were barely above ground most of the time, and kept bumping into objects along the way.

Man, I am tired. Man, I don’t want to deal with this again.

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  1. Knowing that there is an end date makes it appealing—but weather aside, I wonder if you would find LA any more attractive than SF?

    Of course, I am selfish because I am moving to New York. I guess it depends on what goals you have set for yourselves and whether the disruption fits into that. Also, there’s no shame in expressing love for being where you are right now.

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  2. I am not really familar with your history, but it does kinda sound like fun.

    Then again it is FINALLY starting to get nice in Ny so…..

    Tough one. I would go and visit every beach known to man. Daily.

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  3. Wow! That sounds like a really incredible and solid offer, which of course makes it all the more agonizing to decide. A big part of me envies the possibilities you have.
    As the two of you talk about it…trust your gut instincts about this. There is no ‘wrong’ answer…just different paths. The fact that it’s a set time period and you have good friends there (and they will PAY! For EVERYTHING!) are positive things. I truly think your cats will be ok…cats and kids are more resiliant than people ever think, but check with your current vet and get his/her opinion.
    Big decisions are hard…I don’t envy you that. Just remember to breathe, and remember you and Toby CAN do whatever you decide.

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  4. Holy SHIT Mihow. Wow I cannot believe the stuff that happens to you. No wonder you are freaking out and having tummy trouble. Well, what are the negative repercussions if you DON’T move? Because it sounds like you don’t want to go. On the other hand—adventure! Oh lordy I don’t know. Your life has been so peripatetic of late. And btw, are you coming to Dirty’s wedding in Sept? I send all my best wishes for your peace, your peace of mind. Everything is going to be ok.

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  5. Passing up on career opportunities out of concern for your cats seems silly. I was out in LA a couple of weeks ago for work, and while I wouldn’t want to raise a family there, I think a temporary assignment would be great. You guys should definitely go.

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  6. I feel like I am playing hide and go seek and at any moment I might poop my pants.

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  7. As long as you don’t start hanging out with Paris Hilton… go for it! Note: it’s not all about the bling! Mmmkay?

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  8. If you adopt the word Hott I will erase you from my bookmarks.

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  9. You people are killing me with all your undeserved support. I’m about to explode.

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  10. Wait, doest that mean you don’t deserve to support me? Or that I don’t deserve your support? Because I meant the latter.

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  11. So, are you in LA yet?

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  12. hold on a sec … is this an April Fools joke?

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  13. Nope. I’m still pooping my pants in Brooklyn. It’s only the first day of April and we wouldn’t have to be there till May.

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  14. April Fool’s Aunt Michele?

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  15. It’s not an april fools joke, I assure you. I’m just practicing my new career moveS for when I move to LA and get a job on the set of PUNK’D.

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  16. Sounds about right.
    You’ve stayed in one place WAY too long already! ;)

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  17. PUNK’D. PUNK’D, I tell ya.

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  18. If this goes as planned at least you won’t be too far away from San Fran. should you decided to visit again….But wait a minute, this would mean you guys would be out here when Belly and I will be visiting NYC. Ok, this is not cool!

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  19. You people are so sweet and trustworthy.

    PUNK’D

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  20. haha. dork.

    i really can’t wait until you make the ‘Athens, GA’ post, though.

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  21. Quite honestly, I’m a little shocked that anyone bought this. But then again, I guess it says something about us and how often we have moved since I started this Web site. We’re flakey, TJ and I. Rest assured, we’ll be in NYC for a long time, until the babies come or we witness another major terrorist attack. I am hoping it’s the former that eventually drives us out.

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  22. I am gullible. Moving on… good thing, the LA airport smells like litter box.. or at least on the day I was there…

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  23. Lana, I am gullible, too. I even believed it.
    A litter box? Ewwww. I hadn’t noticed that.

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  24. LA sucks anyway…

    Good one Toby.

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  25. Ugh, I hate decisions like this. I can never tell at first if the apprehension I feel is good fear or just fear of change. Ackackack.

    It sounds like a wonderful oppurtunity. And if you hate it in L.A. you can always move back. I think your kitties will be fine going with you. You never know what L.A. has in store.

    It’s also just fine to say, “No Thanks”. Either path you take will be wonderful, not perfect. I know you guys will do well wherever you go.

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  26. Oh dear. I am still getting emails from people. I was just joshin y’all. Hopefully, you’ll find it in your heart to forgive me.

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  27. I just had to come here and say that your comment on Dooce yesterday was the funniest comment of the day.

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  28. I’d like to add that that was a pretty good joke. I was very worried about your cats and was going to tell you to find a good foster home for them for 8 months. If I was in New York, I would have taken them for you.

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  29. NOT!

    I just bought SchmittyKam24×7.com so he could stay on the East Coast w/ me and you could keep an eye on him. g a w d

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  30. Ha!! I’ve been stuck in meetings and work since 11 am, eager to return to mihow.com to see if I was right about this being an April Fools joke! Brilliant!!!

    BTW, my kids tried to get me this morning with the line “There’s a snake behind you!” (they’re so sweet). So I told them, “you’re crazy! YESTERDAY was April Fools day. Today is April 2nd. You just lost track of time because you’re on Spring Break.” I pretty much had them convinced, but I had to say April Fools when my four year old daughter looked like she was about to cry at having missed it.

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  31. haha. charlie, your kids crack me up.

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  32. Oooh! You little stinker! I was all thinkin’ about you and worrying about you being stressed and all.

    I was even in the midst of composing a haiku for you and TobyJoe.

    :P You just performed mass Pooka!

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  33. you are mean. meeeeeean.

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  34. They crack us up all the time, tobyjoe. I think you and Henry would get along great. As much as we joke about him, he actually has a very astute sense of humor. While his own jokes are typical of a nine year old, he understands and laughs at adult jokes, too, and absolutely LOVES irony. He often laughs so hard that he makes no sound whatsoever. One only knows that he’s laughing because his face is twisted into a exaggerated combination of smile and grimace and he stops breathing. That’s when we say “Uh oh! Henry’s broken!”

    We call his younger siblings “the little ones.” Pippy just farts a lot and Owen is quietly plotting world domination. I hope you guys get a chance to meet them some time. Playing “I spy …” with them at the dinner table is lots of fun. Henry stumps us all, Owen cheats, and Pippy has not quite master elementary phonics, so there’s no real telling if what she claims to see that starts with the letter “S” really does. But if she takes a liking to you, whatever you guess will be right.

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  35. that’s awesome, charlie, and kinda makes me wanna have another baby.

    if i do, any of you wanna raise it?

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  36. Someone remind me to post the emails I received due to this post. Oh, the hate was thick, THICK I TELL YA!

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  37. hey mihow, don’t forget to post the emails.

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  38. oh. my. god. Woman! Every time I come in here you guys are in transit! wow- tumultuous living, for sure. I know youwill make the very best decision and it will work out for all of you and yoru beloved kitties . . . sending you peaceful eneriges . .

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  39. GAH!

    I just read through the comments!!! I am so lame and gullible . . . good one, Michelle—and yes—it was totally believable—grrr.

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