I have something I’m trying to work out and I am not sure if I’m being too insecure and lame or if this is legitimately something that should be bothering me. So maybe you can help me!
OK, so we moved Em’s birthday this year to September (during the school year) because everyone seems to go away during the month of August. And I sent out an invite and almost everyone is able to come, so that’s great. Three of the boys are also invited to spend the night. (I’d take them all, but I don’t want to lose what’s left of my mind.) There is this one child who Em adores. And so he was one of the boys who was asked to sleep over. One of the reasons we moved his party was specifically so this child might be able to attend.
Two days ago, I received a message from the boy’s mother. (I like this family a great deal, so I don’t want to come off sounding rude or hateful in any way.) But his mother said he would be able to attend but only for a short while because there is another party he enjoyed last year and so he wants to do that as well. She said that if he’s having a good time, he can choose to stay at Em’s party, but that he’ll likely not spend the night and will probably leave after a short while.
Ok. I mean, I get it. Kids want the best of everything. I know my kid would like to do it all. But wouldn’t this be a good time to say, “No, you make a decision and choose one. Don’t leave a person hanging.”? I’m sincerely trying to figure out what I would do in this situation. I think I would tell my kid that he would go to the one party until it ends and show up late for the other party. It’s fine to not spend the night. Or I would say, “Hey, dude. Time to choose which one you’d rather go to, commit and have fun.”
Am I taking this too personally? I am mightily hormonal these days! But I’m taking my meds and my head has been clearer and I am less anxious and, well, I feel pretty damn solid these days. So I wasn’t sure if the old, insecure me was visiting or not.
Anyway, thanks for reading. Even writing it out feels better. Parenting is hard.