Oh honey… I’m so sorry. I suppose you’ll tell us what happened when you’re ready. Take care of yourself and remember the joy you had with Schmitty. He was a lucky kitty who had a wonderful home with you, it sounds like. I’m sure his life was a very joyful one, and he’s at rest now.
I will write more about his final hours soon. Right now, we’re trying really hard to compose ourselves. I’m not having a good time of this at all. Not at all.
Ooops I hit send too quickly…was leaving with my wife, brother and sister in law and had one of those “I know those people but I don’t know why” moments.
I’m so sorry. You and Tobyjoe had such tremendous love for Schmitty, please take some comfort in knowing that he was happy because of that. Much love to all of you.
It’s okay to cry and lie around eating ice cream for a while. I’m thinking so hard about you and I was even telling my mom about what a hard time you’re having and she doesn’t understand the Intarweb, so she didn’t know why I cared about the cat of someone I didn’t know…
Michele,
I am so sorry to hear that Schmitty is gone. He was the sweetest big guy. I know he will be missed.
We are thinking of you and Toby.
love,
Cathy, Mike, Isabel and Aubrey
Michele, I just had to delurk for a few and say I am so sorry for yours and Tobyjoe’s loss. But it seems that he had a very long and very well loved life, which is one condolence, though not long enough. I am sorry you have to go through this.
Michele and Toby,
I don’t know what to say other than I am thinking of you guys and I wish I could hug you and make the pain go away. Let me know if you need anything.
I’m so so sorry. I have three pets and I know that I’m going to be incredibly heartbroken when their times come. They’re not just animals, they’re family members. Big hugs to you and tobyjoe
i think there’s something one could say here. something about how with the passing of one life, a new life will begin. your son’s life. and if you two even give your son a fraction of the love you had for schmitty, he’ll be in good shape. there’s probably a better way to put that, but i’m not sure how.
oh sweetie, i’m so sorry you’re going through this right now. Schmitty was such an amazing creature and i’m glad you & TobyJoe had so many good years with him. Blondie, Mitch & i are thinking of you.
I generally won’t comment on a different post, when the intended one has closed comments… but for this I have to make an exception. I read your letter to Schmitty twice and couldn’t stop crying or thinking about you and he. It sounds like you had a great many adventures together though and he was a happy kitty. My two cats got extra petting and hugs last night, as I much make sure they know they’re as loved as your boy Schmitty was. Hope you’re holding up alright.
Everyone: Thank you so much for your emails and comments. I want to write each of you back personally and in time I will. I’m having a lot of trouble focusing right now and it still hurts so very much. But I want you all to know that your stories and your words have touched me greatly. I loved knowing that so many people out there love their animals as much as we do. It gives me hope.
I don’t know what to say right now. But I didn’t want to say nothing at all.
Thank you. Your words mean more than you can possibly know.
I’m a little embarrassed to admit that I cried harder when the vet put Milly down than I did when my my mother died. Of course I still mourn my mother every day and always feel like I’m a breath away from tears when I think about her, but my fond memories of Milly are nothing but a comfort to me.
Milly was a funny cat, and she and my mother didn’t get along. My mother disliked cats, and sensing that, Milly always made a point of sleeping and lounging on the guest bed when my mother came to visit. And nobody removed Milly from a bed that she didn’t want to leave. Her growl was no empty threat, trust me.
Come to think of it, I would have to say that Milly and my mother were perhaps the two orneriest pieces of work I have ever known. But both knew a sister bitch when she saw one: Milly slept on one half of the bed, and mom on the other.
I don’t know what this means or if your experience will be the same. We put so much time and care into our pets because they’re our responsibility and they give us so much pleasure and joy, and losing them means losing a unique source of joy. But the memory of that joy will become a comfort over time.
However, losing a parent feels different (but I understand that it’s still fresh for me). While I enjoyed my mother’s company immensely, I think what I’ll miss is not the joy she gave me, but the opportunities to share things with her. I learned on Sunday night that my sister got engaged. But as happy as I am for my sister, I can’t help thinking that Mom would have really loved going to her wedding, and I keep thinking about how much fun my mother had at my wedding. And while Milly took great joy in sharing my tuna with me, I don’t feel like Milly is missing anything when I break out the Bumble Bee albacore.
Perhaps losing our furry friends prepare us for the loss of a family member. I can’t imagine going through the death of an immediate family member. Both toby and I have touched on the issue since Schmitty’s death and then quickly changed the subject. I simply cannot allow myself to imagine such a thing right now. How painful this is. How unbearable that will be for certain. But, like I said, I can’t think about that right now but I will say this: no one I am related to or married to is allowed to do anything dangerous or out of the ordinary until I feel better about losing my fat and perfect friend. period.
Charlie, I am sorry about your mother’s passing. I can’t imagine. I don’t want to. You’re a stronger person than I am. Actually, I think most people are probably stronger than I am. I haven’t ever been very good at heartache. I never learned how to cope with it very well.
You know something kind of pathetic, tho? I do actually feel like Schmitty is missing something every time I open a can of cat food. I don’t want to imagine what that feeling will feel like when I lose a close family member.
Oh, sweet boy. I will miss you.
You have my sympathy, Michele & Toby.
Oh honey… I’m so sorry. I suppose you’ll tell us what happened when you’re ready. Take care of yourself and remember the joy you had with Schmitty. He was a lucky kitty who had a wonderful home with you, it sounds like. I’m sure his life was a very joyful one, and he’s at rest now.
So, so sorry.
Much love to you and TJ.
xo
Sending you much love and our deepest sympathy.
Jen, Mike, Dub & Kali
I will write more about his final hours soon. Right now, we’re trying really hard to compose ourselves. I’m not having a good time of this at all. Not at all.
we all know schmitty had a great life and you gave that to him…. i know he appreciates it too. : ) hang in there love ya, greg
You and Tobyjoe must be devastated, but the rest of us are glad you have each other to lean on and grieve with.
Hope the sunny day helps just a little bit – you’re in my thoughts!
Peace
We’re so sorry. Pippy suggested we give you Gracie, but we’ll just send our live and condolences.
i’m so sorry. you had so many years with him to remember. hold those memories close to you.
It has been awhile since I dropped by the wensite…so so sorry.
Been meaning to drop you a post…were you at Mixtec last Saturday?
Ooops I hit send too quickly…was leaving with my wife, brother and sister in law and had one of those “I know those people but I don’t know why” moments.
Again my condolences for Schmitty
I’m so sorry. You and Tobyjoe had such tremendous love for Schmitty, please take some comfort in knowing that he was happy because of that. Much love to all of you.
I’m sorry to hear it. Schmitty sounded like an awesome little guy. I could tell you and Tobyjoe loved him a lot.
So so sorry to hear this sad news. Thinking of you.
I can’t imagine what you’re going through. My thoughts are with you and Tobyjoe. hugs
Deeply sorry for your loss. hugs
——<@It’s okay to cry and lie around eating ice cream for a while. I’m thinking so hard about you and I was even telling my mom about what a hard time you’re having and she doesn’t understand the Intarweb, so she didn’t know why I cared about the cat of someone I didn’t know…
Michele,
I am so sorry to hear that Schmitty is gone. He was the sweetest big guy. I know he will be missed.
We are thinking of you and Toby.
love,
Cathy, Mike, Isabel and Aubrey
I’m so sorry to hear about Schmitty. My thoughts are with you.
Unconditional love is so hard to let go of… Orville and I are sending be hugs.
correction “big hugs”. sorry, it’s early.
Oh Michele.
I am so so so so sorry.
I wish I could do something for you and your heartache.
Take care
Michele and Tobyjoe- I am sorry for your loss.
I had to come out of lurking and tell you how sorry I am. I don’t even know you and I am so sad for you….
oh no :(
i’m so sorry to hear about schmitty.
Michele, I just had to delurk for a few and say I am so sorry for yours and Tobyjoe’s loss. But it seems that he had a very long and very well loved life, which is one condolence, though not long enough. I am sorry you have to go through this.
i am so sorry for your loss. Schmitty knew right to the end though that he was loved.
Michele and Toby,
I don’t know what to say other than I am thinking of you guys and I wish I could hug you and make the pain go away. Let me know if you need anything.
i am so so sorry. he was so lucky to have parents like you. you gave him such a happy life.
I’m so sorry for your loss and all of your pain.
Oh, no. :( I’m so very sorry, Michele.
so sorry for your loss, michele. hope you and toby are doing okay.
I’m so so sorry. I have three pets and I know that I’m going to be incredibly heartbroken when their times come. They’re not just animals, they’re family members. Big hugs to you and tobyjoe
Deepest and most sincere sympathies. xoxo
Mi, that was a beautiful post. I am so sorry.
i think there’s something one could say here. something about how with the passing of one life, a new life will begin. your son’s life. and if you two even give your son a fraction of the love you had for schmitty, he’ll be in good shape. there’s probably a better way to put that, but i’m not sure how.
I am so sorry, Michelle and Toby. Thinking of you guys.
oh sweetie, i’m so sorry you’re going through this right now. Schmitty was such an amazing creature and i’m glad you & TobyJoe had so many good years with him. Blondie, Mitch & i are thinking of you.
I generally won’t comment on a different post, when the intended one has closed comments… but for this I have to make an exception. I read your letter to Schmitty twice and couldn’t stop crying or thinking about you and he. It sounds like you had a great many adventures together though and he was a happy kitty. My two cats got extra petting and hugs last night, as I much make sure they know they’re as loved as your boy Schmitty was. Hope you’re holding up alright.
Everyone: Thank you so much for your emails and comments. I want to write each of you back personally and in time I will. I’m having a lot of trouble focusing right now and it still hurts so very much. But I want you all to know that your stories and your words have touched me greatly. I loved knowing that so many people out there love their animals as much as we do. It gives me hope.
I don’t know what to say right now. But I didn’t want to say nothing at all.
Thank you. Your words mean more than you can possibly know.
I’m a little embarrassed to admit that I cried harder when the vet put Milly down than I did when my my mother died. Of course I still mourn my mother every day and always feel like I’m a breath away from tears when I think about her, but my fond memories of Milly are nothing but a comfort to me.
Milly was a funny cat, and she and my mother didn’t get along. My mother disliked cats, and sensing that, Milly always made a point of sleeping and lounging on the guest bed when my mother came to visit. And nobody removed Milly from a bed that she didn’t want to leave. Her growl was no empty threat, trust me.
Come to think of it, I would have to say that Milly and my mother were perhaps the two orneriest pieces of work I have ever known. But both knew a sister bitch when she saw one: Milly slept on one half of the bed, and mom on the other.
I don’t know what this means or if your experience will be the same. We put so much time and care into our pets because they’re our responsibility and they give us so much pleasure and joy, and losing them means losing a unique source of joy. But the memory of that joy will become a comfort over time.
However, losing a parent feels different (but I understand that it’s still fresh for me). While I enjoyed my mother’s company immensely, I think what I’ll miss is not the joy she gave me, but the opportunities to share things with her. I learned on Sunday night that my sister got engaged. But as happy as I am for my sister, I can’t help thinking that Mom would have really loved going to her wedding, and I keep thinking about how much fun my mother had at my wedding. And while Milly took great joy in sharing my tuna with me, I don’t feel like Milly is missing anything when I break out the Bumble Bee albacore.
Perhaps losing our furry friends prepare us for the loss of a family member. I can’t imagine going through the death of an immediate family member. Both toby and I have touched on the issue since Schmitty’s death and then quickly changed the subject. I simply cannot allow myself to imagine such a thing right now. How painful this is. How unbearable that will be for certain. But, like I said, I can’t think about that right now but I will say this: no one I am related to or married to is allowed to do anything dangerous or out of the ordinary until I feel better about losing my fat and perfect friend. period.
Charlie, I am sorry about your mother’s passing. I can’t imagine. I don’t want to. You’re a stronger person than I am. Actually, I think most people are probably stronger than I am. I haven’t ever been very good at heartache. I never learned how to cope with it very well.
You know something kind of pathetic, tho? I do actually feel like Schmitty is missing something every time I open a can of cat food. I don’t want to imagine what that feeling will feel like when I lose a close family member.
I am so sorry Michele. I knew Schmitty only briefly but I will never forget him.