Comments on: A Small Confession

By: midwesthive

midwesthive — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 17:29:27 +0000

Gosh, I’m glad I’m not the only one who has struggeled with this – making friends in adulthood. Both my husband and I are lonely, moved from home, isolated. We even made friends and then they evaporated when we had children, they were past that stage.

My new years goal is to be more friendly to people, more compassionate, so that I can connect with them, even if they’re serving me tacos.

By: WarsawMommy

WarsawMommy — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 07:49:12 +0000

Aw, I get it. I have a very small group of friends in Poland – made smaller by the language barrier – and I can truly say that when E. is out of commission, I am desperately lonely. I have other people here, but most of my good friends are back in Canada. Phone calls and e-mail are just no comparison to a good chat over coffee.

Oh, dear. Now I’m lonely too. Good thing E. is coming over later for coffee.

By: chele

chele — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 13:36:02 +0000

When my ex and I broke up he took a lot of the friends with him. I realized that my world had gotten very small.

So I decided to go to the “Friend Store” AKA the internet and joined some groups. Some were real life (in the same city) and some were virtual.
It took a while, but eventually I had a new circle of friends. I met my 3 best friends and the love of my life at the Friend Store. I met you, one of my favorite people in virtual life, at the Friend Store!

I’m sending lots of virtual hugs to you today, my friend. xoxox

By: Jonathan

Jonathan — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 02:11:17 +0000

ok. fyi- i dislike bananas, but i do like plantains. i’m not quite sure plantains belong in baked goods though.

i can also teach you espresso making tips on either of my machines.

By: mihow

mihow — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 01:43:27 +0000

Jonathan: Deal. Seriously. I love baking and Toby Joe won’t eat it. :]

Taratory: I will take you up on that, darlin’

Thanks, everyone for listening to me whine so much!

By: jonathan

jonathan — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 01:01:04 +0000

if you bake me cookies, i will be your friend.

actually, i’ll be your friend regardless. but if you bake me cookies i’d let you talk to me and listen to you with intent ( or at least feign to do so ).

cookies. that’s all it costs. think about it.

By: Taratory

Taratory — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 17:53:25 +0000

I get lonely too. I had several very close friends move away last year and it was tough.

Your friend is in my thoughts.

And if you ever wanted to grab a coffee, feel free to e-mail me.

By: bambooska

bambooska — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 13:04:13 +0000

I tend to think of myself as lonely sometimes, and that’s okay because even though I feel that way, there’s nothing stopping me to find ways of feeling better, engage in some different activity and find new friendships. It may look hard at first, but I’ve noticed you’re super fun and charismatic. You’ve got it in you, mihow, and you’re very easy to like. :-) Also, I think Internet can provide us some good friends, and who says they should remain just “virtual”? Drag them to your reality, lots of people feel this way, Internet is not a parallel world. It’s only a way to communicate with others. It’s one thing I love about it, personally. ;-)

By: Alice

Alice — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 06:52:02 +0000

Giving Murray a big hug would help. everything. And he will smile too.

By: JessicaP

JessicaP — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 19:35:36 +0000

You’ve made me cry here… because I’m lonely too. The people that I’ve lost and the friends I have selfishly thrown away haunt my dreams, and every day I wake up and I wonder how I’m going to work up the courage to reconnect, to go out in the world and find new friendships. It’s scary and heartbreaking being stuck in a pattern where all you want is someone to talk to but you’re too closed off to do anything about it.

I’m sorry your friend is in the hospital and you can’t be with her right now. Maybe you should write her a long letter that she can read someday when she’s doing better?

Don’t worry, Mihow, everything turns out all right in the end.

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By: Roo8382

Roo8382 — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 17:12:14 +0000

I’m lonely as well, mihow! I moved away from my friends and haven’t had any success making new ones where we live now. My husband knows I’m lonely, but it’s super-hard for me to branch out. I’m friendly and outgoing in social situations, but I’m super reserved about my real feelings.

I’m glad you wrote about your loneliness. You aren’t the only one. My prayers and thoughts are with your friend for a speedy recovery. And with you, to find some comfort.

By: Leball

Leball — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 17:00:50 +0000

I am lonely one my son goes to bed before I do. When my son is away with his dad and I have finished all my chores and errands. When I want to cry and I feel stupid, because I am just crying because I miss my girlfriends too. Being lonely sucks.

By: Mere

Mere — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 16:50:49 +0000

I am the same way – I have a very small group of friends that I spend my time with. And when they are involved in relationships or are otherwise occupied you realize no one else wants to hear the mundane parts of your day. The obvious fix is to make more friends. But if you are anything like me, it cannot be any friend, it has to be the right friend. Maybe reach backwards if there are people you liked but could not invest the time to cultivate? You DO need support with a sick friend. And at some point you will want another ear to listen.

By: Elle

Elle — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 15:12:53 +0000

I know it is hard when a close friend is so sick and you can’t reach her. I know you don’t want to hear this but I lost a very close friend very suddenly (she was only 18) in 1994 and there is probably not a day that I don’t think of her, what her kids would’ve looked like, etc. and I often wish and could talk to her. Now I treasure the few close friends that I do have. Hang in there. Don’t worry about crying. I’ve done it loads of time. When it gets warmer again and you can go with E to the park you’ll meet more moms again and hopefully S will be able to join you soon too. Wishing her a speedy recovery. You need her back. :)

By: mihow

mihow — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 15:02:25 +0000

Kizz: I’m in a coffee shop. Making me cry in public? UNFORGIVABLE. :]

I think you’re right about branching out, but that will take some major personality remodeling. Not even sure where to begin…

By: Kizz

Kizz — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 15:00:09 +0000

So maybe now you work out a way to branch out and when S is a bit better you’ll have someone good to introduce her to.