Comments on: My Miscarriage. http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/ In Alpha Since 2001 Wed, 23 May 2012 18:48:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: Nicole http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-2/#comment-129487 Nicole Wed, 06 Jan 2010 15:59:59 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-129487 Thank you for sharing this. Not that sobbing incontrollably is my hobbie. I just started reading your blog. After todays entry I've poured over the last six months of entries. You are an amazing writer so much detail humor and a rich voice. I'm sure as you hoped a woman in need of company in grief will appreciate you opening the up. I'm sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing this. Not that sobbing incontrollably is my hobbie.
I just started reading your blog. After todays entry I’ve poured over the last six months of entries. You are an amazing writer so much detail humor and a rich voice.
I’m sure as you hoped a woman in need of company in grief will appreciate you opening the up. I’m sorry for your loss.

]]> By: Deana http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-2/#comment-124009 Deana Wed, 02 Sep 2009 04:43:31 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-124009 Thank you so much for sharing your story. My husband and I had 3 miscarriages back to back. We have since gone on to have a beautiful baby girl. As a previous poster wrote you don't really ever "get over it" but it will get easier. Your story really brought back all the memories and the emotion and I just wanted to say thank you for your painful honesty. You and you husband are in my prayers. Thank you so much for sharing your story. My husband and I had 3 miscarriages back to back. We have since gone on to have a beautiful baby girl. As a previous poster wrote you don’t really ever “get over it” but it will get easier.
Your story really brought back all the memories and the emotion and I just wanted to say thank you for your painful honesty. You and you husband are in my prayers.

]]> By: melle http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-2/#comment-123988 melle Tue, 01 Sep 2009 18:50:56 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-123988 I had a miscarriage on December 24.2005. My first baby. I don't think you really ever "get over it". It's just a tough, cruel part of life. But I believe that my baby is alive in "heaven" or whatever you want to call it, and is looking after my family on earth. I was blessed with a sweet little blue eyed boy, Sawyer, on June 1, 2007. He sounds a lot like your son Emory. Thank-you for sharing your story. Even after all these years I still find myself thinking "My baby would have turned 4 this summer", and so on...Thanks again for the story, I think you will find that it not only helps you heal, but all of us in the world that read this and know that there are other women and families who can relate to the heartbreak of losing a baby. Melle I had a miscarriage on December 24.2005. My first baby. I don’t think you really ever “get over it”. It’s just a tough, cruel part of life. But I believe that my baby is alive in “heaven” or whatever you want to call it, and is looking after my family on earth. I was blessed with a sweet little blue eyed boy, Sawyer, on June 1, 2007. He sounds a lot like your son Emory. Thank-you for sharing your story. Even after all these years I still find myself thinking “My baby would have turned 4 this summer”, and so on…Thanks again for the story, I think you will find that it not only helps you heal, but all of us in the world that read this and know that there are other women and families who can relate to the heartbreak of losing a baby.

Melle

]]> By: Best In Show: Week Of July 27th – bethsix http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-2/#comment-123665 Best In Show: Week Of July 27th – bethsix Mon, 24 Aug 2009 17:45:39 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-123665 [...] – As Tears Go By and My Miscarriage – “And just as I closed my eyes, I pictured a little boy with him — another blue-eyed [...] [...] – As Tears Go By and My Miscarriage – “And just as I closed my eyes, I pictured a little boy with him — another blue-eyed [...]

]]> By: Trish http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-2/#comment-123341 Trish Tue, 18 Aug 2009 18:47:09 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-123341 Having been through this nightmare, my God, I wish I didn't know your pain. But I do. All too well. I don't even know you and wish I could take this unbearable pain away for you. It's a grief I've never felt before. You're beautiful words brought it all back. But I think sometimes you need to go back to remember where you were and where you are. It's hard to be grateful during such an emotional time. But I promise you'll get there. You and your husband are in my thoughts. I wish you a lifetime of happiness and a healthy, happy sibling for Emory. Thank you. Having been through this nightmare, my God, I wish I didn’t know your pain. But I do. All too well. I don’t even know you and wish I could take this unbearable pain away for you. It’s a grief I’ve never felt before.

You’re beautiful words brought it all back. But I think sometimes you need to go back to remember where you were and where you are.

It’s hard to be grateful during such an emotional time. But I promise you’ll get there.

You and your husband are in my thoughts. I wish you a lifetime of happiness and a healthy, happy sibling for Emory.

Thank you.

]]> By: Kerri Anne http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-2/#comment-123102 Kerri Anne Wed, 12 Aug 2009 21:02:53 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-123102 I just wanted to say I'm thinking about you, and sending you mad love from here. I just wanted to say I’m thinking about you, and sending you mad love from here.

]]> By: liz http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-2/#comment-123100 liz Wed, 12 Aug 2009 20:12:37 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-123100 Thinking of you. Thinking of you.

]]> By: Jenna http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-2/#comment-122972 Jenna Mon, 10 Aug 2009 00:25:28 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122972 i am in tears for both of us....may they bring us strength. may you find healing, strength and peace i am in tears for both of us….may they bring us strength. may you find healing, strength and peace

]]> By: Andrea http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-2/#comment-122671 Andrea Mon, 03 Aug 2009 16:04:32 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122671 hi michele i have read your words and they are so familiar to me. i share your pain and sorrow. my tears mirror yours. god bless you, your family, and your little ones. hi michele

i have read your words and they are so familiar to me. i share your pain and sorrow. my tears mirror yours. god bless you, your family, and your little ones.

]]> By: KidKate http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-1/#comment-122663 KidKate Mon, 03 Aug 2009 13:56:26 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122663 Hi Michele, I've been away on vacation for the past week with no Internet but wanted to let you know that I thought about you every day. I am so sorry you have to go through this and am glad that you have the strength to write about. Kate Hi Michele,

I’ve been away on vacation for the past week with no Internet but wanted to let you know that I thought about you every day. I am so sorry you have to go through this and am glad that you have the strength to write about.

Kate

]]> By: Laura Beth http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-1/#comment-122648 Laura Beth Mon, 03 Aug 2009 03:38:09 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122648 I am so sorry. I am so sorry. I am SO sorry. Two years ago I had a miscarriage and didn't want to talk about it to anyone. My husband forced me to tell a small group of people (friends and family) and I am so glad he did. As time has passed I have been able to talk about it a little bit more, and you have summed up exactly how I felt . . . and maybe still do. I guess I didn't want to talk about it because of the fear that people wouldn't really understand. May God give you peace and healing. Thank you for sharing in such a public way. . . and helping me to heal up my wound a little bit more. I am so sorry. I am so sorry. I am SO sorry. Two years ago I had a miscarriage and didn’t want to talk about it to anyone. My husband forced me to tell a small group of people (friends and family) and I am so glad he did. As time has passed I have been able to talk about it a little bit more, and you have summed up exactly how I felt . . . and maybe still do. I guess I didn’t want to talk about it because of the fear that people wouldn’t really understand. May God give you peace and healing. Thank you for sharing in such a public way. . . and helping me to heal up my wound a little bit more.

]]> By: Charlie http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-1/#comment-122641 Charlie Sun, 02 Aug 2009 22:15:28 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122641 Kerry and I pray for your family's comfort and solace. Kerry and I pray for your family’s comfort and solace.

]]> By: Julie http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-1/#comment-122628 Julie Sun, 02 Aug 2009 17:02:00 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122628 My love and hugs are with you. She was right... you WILL get through this. My love and hugs are with you. She was right… you WILL get through this.

]]> By: Carrie D. http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-1/#comment-122624 Carrie D. Sun, 02 Aug 2009 16:29:19 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122624 I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for having the brave heart to share this. I'm sending it to a friend who has just gone through the same thing and is having trouble processing any feelings about it at all. I think it will help her to read your words. Beautifully written. I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for having the brave heart to share this. I’m sending it to a friend who has just gone through the same thing and is having trouble processing any feelings about it at all. I think it will help her to read your words. Beautifully written.

]]> By: Jen http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-1/#comment-122590 Jen Fri, 31 Jul 2009 19:40:43 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122590 my thoughts and prayers are with your family at this most difficult time. thank you for sharing your inner most feelings. you are a strong woman. my thoughts and prayers are with your family at this most difficult time. thank you for sharing your inner most feelings. you are a strong woman.

]]> By: Bleu http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-1/#comment-122589 Bleu Fri, 31 Jul 2009 19:32:55 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122589 This makes me feel so sad for you but so happy that my daughter is healthy, I was scared she wouldnt be as I had no idea I was pregnat until 20 weeks, was having periods up until then, I was eating things you shouldnt when pregnant, got drunk 2 times and did sooo much heavy lifting, things like washing machines and under counter refridgerationg. I was told I may of had a twin loss but I never knew for sure. I wish you all the best in the future, take some time to enjoy your son, one day you will birth him a healthy sibling! This makes me feel so sad for you but so happy that my daughter is healthy, I was scared she wouldnt be as I had no idea I was pregnat until 20 weeks, was having periods up until then, I was eating things you shouldnt when pregnant, got drunk 2 times and did sooo much heavy lifting, things like washing machines and under counter refridgerationg. I was told I may of had a twin loss but I never knew for sure.

I wish you all the best in the future, take some time to enjoy your son, one day you will birth him a healthy sibling!

]]> By: Sarah, Goon Squad Sarah http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-1/#comment-122584 Sarah, Goon Squad Sarah Fri, 31 Jul 2009 16:49:43 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122584 I am so sorry. (When my doctor asked me the current mood question I just sobbed for about 20 minutes.) I am so sorry.

(When my doctor asked me the current mood question I just sobbed for about 20 minutes.)

]]> By: TKIngalls http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-1/#comment-122540 TKIngalls Thu, 30 Jul 2009 16:23:58 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122540 I wanted to post a comment when I first read this post but couldn't find the words. I took several days to think about, hoping to find the "right" thing. Then I realized there is no "right" thing. All I can do is say that I'm terribly sorry for the pain and grief you and your family are going through. And I hope that knowing that someone you don't know is wishing you comfort and strength at this time helps, even a little bit. I wanted to post a comment when I first read this post but couldn’t find the words. I took several days to think about, hoping to find the “right” thing. Then I realized there is no “right” thing. All I can do is say that I’m terribly sorry for the pain and grief you and your family are going through. And I hope that knowing that someone you don’t know is wishing you comfort and strength at this time helps, even a little bit.

]]> By: jenB http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-1/#comment-122517 jenB Thu, 30 Jul 2009 06:18:20 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122517 I am sobbing for you Michelle. I cannot imagine how painful in every manner this must be for you and TobyJoe. Offering sympathy seems bland, but please know it is sincere and yes, yes, you will get through this. Much love thenew jenB I am sobbing for you Michelle. I cannot imagine how painful in every manner this must be for you and TobyJoe. Offering sympathy seems bland, but please know it is sincere and yes, yes, you will get through this.

Much love

thenew
jenB

]]> By: Jessica http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-1/#comment-122512 Jessica Thu, 30 Jul 2009 01:47:22 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122512 I am so sorry. These are words that don't do much to help. I know. I lost a baby when I was 18 weeks pregnant. I went into labor and somehow didn't even realize what was happening even though I alrady had 2 children. Then my water broke and I knew it was over. I just kept wishing I could take those moments back, do something different. The doctor thinks I had an "incompetent cervix," I felt incompetent. So many people said "Thank goodness, you have children." I felt bad that I still felt SO bad. I had never felt SO bad in my life. I really wanted that baby, I was so happy to be pregnant. My husband didn't want to get pregnant again, I was devastated (huge understatement). I cut off all my hair, laid in bed all day, cried, and made my friends and family crazy by talking constantly about how much I wanted a baby for months. More maternity clothes I ordered came in the mail. My regular clothes wouldn't fit, I couldn't bear to wear maternity clothes. I kept gaining weight like I was still pregnant, my breasts hurt. I couldn't look at pregnant women or babies. I felt so much jealousy, something I was unaccustomed to feeling. I couldn't believe something like that could happen to me. I was weird a LOT. My heart hurt for so long. My good friend had a baby, my husband's ex had a baby, my best friend had a baby. My heart still hurt. I drank a lot of margaritas, even though I have never been a drinker. I tried to push through. It helped a little when my due date passed. My heart still ached. Then, I got pregnant again. I was so afraid to be excited. I was still weird. I had a scare at 18 weeks again and had to take Terbutaline (to stop preterm labor) for the duration of my pregnancy. I had a baby girl and she was perfect. My heart stopped aching. I wish there was some way to help ease your pain. I hope you can take me at my word that it WILL happen. Many blessings to you and your family. I am so sorry. These are words that don’t do much to help. I know. I lost a baby when I was 18 weeks pregnant. I went into labor and somehow didn’t even realize what was happening even though I alrady had 2 children. Then my water broke and I knew it was over. I just kept wishing I could take those moments back, do something different. The doctor thinks I had an “incompetent cervix,” I felt incompetent. So many people said “Thank goodness, you have children.” I felt bad that I still felt SO bad. I had never felt SO bad in my life. I really wanted that baby, I was so happy to be pregnant. My husband didn’t want to get pregnant again, I was devastated (huge understatement). I cut off all my hair, laid in bed all day, cried, and made my friends and family crazy by talking constantly about how much I wanted a baby for months. More maternity clothes I ordered came in the mail. My regular clothes wouldn’t fit, I couldn’t bear to wear maternity clothes. I kept gaining weight like I was still pregnant, my breasts hurt. I couldn’t look at pregnant women or babies. I felt so much jealousy, something I was unaccustomed to feeling. I couldn’t believe something like that could happen to me. I was weird a LOT. My heart hurt for so long. My good friend had a baby, my husband’s ex had a baby, my best friend had a baby. My heart still hurt. I drank a lot of margaritas, even though I have never been a drinker. I tried to push through. It helped a little when my due date passed. My heart still ached. Then, I got pregnant again. I was so afraid to be excited. I was still weird. I had a scare at 18 weeks again and had to take Terbutaline (to stop preterm labor) for the duration of my pregnancy. I had a baby girl and she was perfect. My heart stopped aching. I wish there was some way to help ease your pain. I hope you can take me at my word that it WILL happen.

Many blessings to you and your family.

]]> By: Sharon http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-1/#comment-122504 Sharon Wed, 29 Jul 2009 22:54:05 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122504 I'm truly sorry to read about your loss, I too miscarried our second baby, slightly different circumstances as I had a sense of foreboding from the moment the baby was conceived and I wasn't given the option of finding out the sex. I'm sorry about that, I think I would of liked to have known... today, several years down the line I have a beautiful daughter that I thank the "universe" every day to have brought into our lives, I console myself somewhat thinking that she may never have had the chance to get here had someone else taken her place, I feel strongly that it just wasn't the right time for that little one to come and join us and I just want to say to you Michelle, that this will get easier, time will ease your pain and you too will have a brother or sister one day for Emory ... take care and I wish you well... I’m truly sorry to read about your loss, I too miscarried our second baby, slightly different circumstances as I had a sense of foreboding from the moment the baby was conceived and I wasn’t given the option of finding out the sex. I’m sorry about that, I think I would of liked to have known… today, several years down the line I have a beautiful daughter that I thank the “universe” every day to have brought into our lives, I console myself somewhat thinking that she may never have had the chance to get here had someone else taken her place, I feel strongly that it just wasn’t the right time for that little one to come and join us and I just want to say to you Michelle, that this will get easier, time will ease your pain and you too will have a brother or sister one day for Emory …

take care and I wish you well…

]]> By: MoDLin http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-1/#comment-122503 MoDLin Wed, 29 Jul 2009 22:16:18 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122503 Michele, I'm so sorry. You are so brave and generous to share this nightmare with us. For those who have not suffered a loss, you have brought the experience home. We all ache for you, with you. We are sending you gentle hugs. Michele, I’m so sorry. You are so brave and generous to share this nightmare with us. For those who have not suffered a loss, you have brought the experience home. We all ache for you, with you. We are sending you gentle hugs.

]]> By: Sarah in Huntsville http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-1/#comment-122501 Sarah in Huntsville Wed, 29 Jul 2009 21:13:31 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122501 Last Thursday, we got the results of the genetic testing from my D&C. We also found out the gender. I think your instincts on this are spot on. If I could un-know it, I would. I'm thinking about you and your family. Last Thursday, we got the results of the genetic testing from my D&C. We also found out the gender.

I think your instincts on this are spot on. If I could un-know it, I would.

I’m thinking about you and your family.

]]> By: Devery http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-1/#comment-122492 Devery Wed, 29 Jul 2009 16:05:16 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122492 Your post is making me weep. I am so so sorry for your loss. "perished" seems like the aptest word to me in this case. I am so sorry. And I am incredibly impressed by your bravery and grateful for your candor. I am 37, we are trying for our first child, and the odds are significant that I may go through this one day. I am sure your words are helping and will help many, many people. Hang in there. Your post is making me weep. I am so so sorry for your loss. “perished” seems like the aptest word to me in this case. I am so sorry.

And I am incredibly impressed by your bravery and grateful for your candor. I am 37, we are trying for our first child, and the odds are significant that I may go through this one day. I am sure your words are helping and will help many, many people. Hang in there.

]]> By: Neil http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-1/#comment-122490 Neil Wed, 29 Jul 2009 15:31:26 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122490 I'm sorry. I’m sorry.

]]> By: Carrie http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-1/#comment-122488 Carrie Wed, 29 Jul 2009 14:51:54 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122488 I am so sorry for your loss. Your post has provided wonderful insight into what a woman (and a family) goes through after a miscarriage. Thank you for sharing with us and not holding back. My thoughts and with you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss. Your post has provided wonderful insight into what a woman (and a family) goes through after a miscarriage. Thank you for sharing with us and not holding back. My thoughts and with you and your family.

]]> By: kim http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-1/#comment-122484 kim Wed, 29 Jul 2009 13:30:55 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122484 Beautiful post. You are such a strong person to share what you are going through. I hope each days brings you a little more peace and a lot of joy. Beautiful post. You are such a strong person to share what you are going through. I hope each days brings you a little more peace and a lot of joy.

]]> By: Stephanie http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-1/#comment-122483 Stephanie Wed, 29 Jul 2009 12:07:01 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122483 Thanks for sharing this experience. You are brave beyond belief. Be well and someday soon you'll be writing about Emory's brother or sister. We look forward to it. Peace. Thanks for sharing this experience. You are brave beyond belief. Be well and someday soon you’ll be writing about Emory’s brother or sister. We look forward to it. Peace.

]]> By: Kater http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-1/#comment-122470 Kater Wed, 29 Jul 2009 05:54:03 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122470 Thanks again for your honesty and openness. You are so strong. Take care. Thanks again for your honesty and openness. You are so strong. Take care.

]]> By: Athena714 http://mihow.com/articles/2009/07/27/my-miscarriag/comment-page-1/#comment-122466 Athena714 Wed, 29 Jul 2009 03:40:52 +0000 http://mihow.com/?p=34047#comment-122466 Hey girl, Long time lurker here just to offer some words of support. I know how much you are hurting right now. I had two miscarriages before we finally had our sweet girl this past January. Just wanted to say I am so so sorry. This fucking sucks, doesn't it? There's nothing more to it. Hugs to you and love to Toby Joe and Emory. Miranda Athena714 Hey girl,

Long time lurker here just to offer some words of support. I know how much you are hurting right now. I had two miscarriages before we finally had our sweet girl this past January. Just wanted to say I am so so sorry. This fucking sucks, doesn’t it? There’s nothing more to it. Hugs to you and love to Toby Joe and Emory.

Miranda
Athena714

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